5 Things This Sex Therapist Wished People Knew about Sexuality
5 Things This Sex Therapist Wished People Knew about Sexuality
Jasmine M. McLean, LCSW, CST, M.Ed.
We live in a society where a reference to sex is present in every aspect of our lives but is still a taboo topic in many circles. It is for that reason that many people do not have a good foundation on sexuality. Here are some things I wish people knew about sexuality.
1. Sexuality does not inherently mean sex or sexual activity: Human Sexuality is a specific field that studies the way people express themselves sexually. This can include their biological, social, emotional, gender identities and behaviors. The field of human sexuality is diverse and can cover a variety of topics including childbirth, pre- and post- partum, reproductive physiology and biology, gender or sexual identity exploration, ethical and legal practices of sexuality among many others.
2. Seeing a sex therapist is a good idea for most people seeking sexuality related concerns: As mentioned in a previous post, a sex therapist is a mental health provider who has received specific additional training on sexuality related concerns. While most therapists receive a basic training, sex therapists have chosen to specialize in sexuality related concerns. It is for this reason that I recommend seeing a sex therapist if you are seeking sexuality related concerns.
3. People who have sexual concerns don’t inherently have something wrong with them: Many times, we have the belief that it is our fault that we have a sexual related concern. We may think that we aren’t trying hard enough and putting in enough effort. We may think that this means there is something wrong with us. Sexual concerns are not inherently your fault. Sometimes medication, age, or other biological factors can impact our sexual health. It is for that reason that I recommend a medical evaluation by a licensed medical provider to alongside their work with me to determine if there is some medical concerns to be addressed.
4. Our sexuality is influenced by our upbringing: Our upbringing includes a lot of our life and that includes our sexuality. That does not mean our upbringing was inherently bad, merely that it is possible that this influence has impacted us in ways we didn’t consider or even know. It is helpful to reflect on the ways in which your upbringing has influenced you and your sexuality. A sex therapist can also help you do as such.
5. Communication is Key: Regardless of what sexuality related thing you are discussing and who you are discussing it with, it is important to communicate. Communication is important to get your point across. If you’re struggling to articulate your sexuality related concern, then it might be helpful to see a sex therapist who can help you learn communication skills and strategies.
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